A lot of our first time guests feel nervous but once you’ve been, those nerves turn to excitement. We recommend getting involved on Discord to chat to people, there is always talk of outfit ideas and where to find them. We have a wonderfully supportive network.
Approach person before prospect - You may have seen an activity you’re interested in, but talk to them as a person first and not a kink dispenser.
Use plain language - One thing we hear often is not knowing if someone is flirting or vice versa. We all just wish people made themselves clear, so let’s normalise telling them! Things may progress or they may not but at least your intentions are clear. If someone doesn’t wish to partake then don’t feel hurt or offended, we all have reasons and preferences and it’s just as much fun making friends in the lifestyle.
Helpful phrases are:
“Are you free to talk”
“I am interested in X play with you, would you like to discuss?”
“I do not want to play right now but thank you for asking”
“Let me take a moment to think about it”