It is a sex positive environment but people don’t want all interactions to be of a sexual nature.
Basic courtesy and consent is expected at all times, this is irrespective of what is being worn or what may be happening.
Red/Amber/Green wristbands are available to help identify what levels of play people may be interested in. Red - I’m here to enjoy but not to play/am partnered. Amber - I’m not sure but maybe we can talk later. Green - Come say hi! While wristbands give an indication of interest, they are not an expression of consent.
It is normal and is expected for you to ask before touching someone in any context, this does not just relate to sexual contact. You may not have experienced latex before ‘can I feel it’, you may be interacting with a pet player for the first time ‘can I give you a head pat?’. Do not make assumptions on how someone wants to be treated based on how others interact with them.
Not everyone there wants to play with others or they may attend in a pre existing dynamic.
If there are people playing in an open space, keep a respectful distance and where possible ask if it’s ok to watch. If you are close enough for them to hear you, you are close enough to impact their scene.
When negotiating play, be clear with your limits and listen to the other person’s. Check in regularly during play, particularly with a new play partner. Communication is key.
All of the above considerations should be observed with sexual and sensual acts. If you wish to join, make your presence known and ask the parties involved. If they decline do not take offence and move away.
If people are playing in a private room with the door closed, the assumption would be they do not want to be watched. If the door is open and it is a smaller space, respectfully make your presence known and ask to watch. It can be very distracting for the players as well as potentially dangerous (impact and various play equipment) to have people walk into a ‘scene’ unawares and in close proximity.
If you would like to approach someone for play or to talk about play, ensure they are free to talk and not involved in a scene or aftercare of a scene. If in doubt, give them space and speak to them later. A courteous approach is “are you free to talk?”. “I am interested in X play with you, would you like to discuss?”.
If you are involved in play or a scene, you cannot invite others to join unless all parties are in agreement. Group consent is required.
Whilst watching remain quiet and keep talking to a minimum, you can move away to talk then come back.
Please do not touch other people’s equipment. If there is something of interest, wait for an appropriate time and ask afterwards.